Dating game mind
How everybody wins: Maintaining your own life acts like claustrophobia kryptonite."When you show that you like him but your world doesn't revolve around him, it says you're confident and self-reliant — two very sexy traits to a guy," says Argov.To really work the strategy, end dates and phone calls first, and cryptically mention your other plans with little or no elaboration."When Dom and I first started dating, we would have brunch every Sunday," says Georgia, 26.Rebecca, 20, realized this worked when she went to her new boyfriend Ken's office Christmas party."When I ordered a particular type of wine at the bar, a man to my left remarked on my good taste," she recalls.Absence creates anticipation and a feeling of "If I don't see her now, I'll die." When he calls, "let your voice mail pick up now and then," says Sherry Argov, author of ."It shows him that you're worth the wait and effort.
So when you throw in an alluring reward — that would be you — well, stand back."Over dinner, Andy asked me if I was seeing other people.I just said teasingly, 'Well, I certainly don't stay home alone.' I could see the intrigue was killing him." How everybody wins: Where there's secrecy, there's interest."Men are hunters, and they want to discover for themselves what makes you tick," says Fisher."That curiosity drives up the levels of dopamine in his brain, a chemical that fuels the mad-love feeling." Kreidman adds: "When you reveal something that's truly weighty, he'll feel like he's earned your trust." What's in it for you?